Humouristic Mishaps

How do you handle mishaps?

Is there a difference between your own and others’?

How about the mishaps of others that impact you?

How do you feel after your reaction?

What can you do better?

Mishaps happen all the time.

Sometimes it is we who make them.

Sometimes it is others who do.

Sometimes others' mishaps have consequences for us.

Laize afair and humour are the best choice.

Anger, outrage and pity are the worst choices.

After all, you never know where a mishap shall lead.

Excitement Decay

How much does anticipation excite you?

How does the excitement develop over time?

How much is left just before the event?

How do you feel when it is all gone?

When we anticipate something, we get excited.

Some of us lose excitement over time.

When the event arrives, we want to stay home.

We wonder why we suffer from excitement decay.

While some people experience excitement growth.

Solo vs Group

How do you solve problems?

Do you prefer to think on your own?

Do you prefer to consult a group?

What happens when you do both?

Sometimes we can find an answer on our own.

Sometimes we need help from others.

The magic happens when we do both.

Everyone has their blind spots.

And groupthink may lack innovation.

Use each method accordingly.

Theory vs Praxis

How important is education?

How important is experience?

How important are results?

What do you choose?

Education is important,

yet it is not essential.

Experience is crucial.

Some things can only be learnt through praxis.

Others need to be learnt through education.

Ideally, you have both,

yet most important are the results.

Hitting a Wall

How often do you hit a wall?

How do you react to it?

What works to break through?

How much effort does it take?

Progress comes with hitting walls.

Breaking through is the only option.

We can bang our heads against it.

We can take a step back.

We can jump over them.

We can dig under them.

Often it serves to change the approach.

There is always a way to the other side.

Connecting People

How often do you connect people?

How do you know if they fit?

How do you know if they are worthy?

What is the result when they are not?

What is the result when they are?

We all connect people,

some more frequently than others.

Yet, not every connection works out.

Some people do not value your attempt.

And others will feel honored for your effort.

It is paramount to vet people for worthiness.

The unworthy will always disappoint.

Taking the extra step

How often do you take an extra step?

When do you take the extra step?

Why do you do it then?

How does this affect the outcome?

We tend to do exactly what is requested.

Yet, going the extra mile can be impactful.

It improves the impression we leave.

It can be the difference between success and failure.

The extra step can save us time and effort.

Just take 5 minutes to think a little more before executing.

Stand your ground

How well do you stand your ground?

How well do you handle your emotions then?

How does it feel when you are successful?

What stops you from doing this more?

Who keeps challenging your boundaries?

Standing your ground is a good exercise.

Yet, sometimes we need to choose our battles.

We will get challenged constantly, and more by some.

Standing your ground successfully needs calm nerves.

Standing your ground needs confidence.

Standing your ground needs good self-worth.

Obvious Reasons

How often do you go with the obvious reason?

How often has the obvious failed you?

How complex are most topics?

Have you considered all the factors?

The obvious reason works for simple issues.

Complex problems do not have obvious answers.

Yet, we try to apply simple reasoning to complex questions.

Mixing complexity and simplicity rarely works.

Be sure to have analysed the structure,

then decide if you can go with the obvious.

Freeloaders

Where are the freeloaders?

Who are you dragging along?

Who does not take responsibility?

Who comes only when they have something to gain?

Most of us have a freeloader in our lives.

They always have a good reason,

not to take responsibility,

not to carry part of a burden,

to need help all the time.

Why do you tolerate them?

When is it time to move on?

Belonging Pressure

Where do you belong?

How important is belonging to you?

What have you done due to this need?

What consequences did these have?

Humans have a natural pressure to belong.

Most want to be part of a group.

We will do things to be accepted.

Often, these will come to bite us.

Belonging comes naturally with the right group.

Don’t twist yourself, look for the right people.

Processing Grief

How well can you grief?

How much do you hold in?

For how long do you hold it in?

How does it feel to release grief?

Some of us can process grief quickly.

Others, hold it in for years.

Some till the day they depart.

Bottled up grief harms us.

Is this in the interest of what/who you grieve for?

Retribution vs Progress

How important is retribution to you?

How important is progress for you?

Which one is more important?

What have you gotten out of retribution?

How does progress feel?

We are often faced with a choice:

Receiving retribution owed to us,

or progressing in life.

We can rarely right a wrong,

while we solve the problems caused.

Justice and retribution are overrated.

Life's End Preparation

How well have you prepared for your death?

What documents do you have in place?

What is important to you?

Who is important to you?

You can decide not to care and leave in chaos.

Or you can decide to leave order behind.

If the things you created are important to you,

and likewise the people in your life,

then there is only one right answer.

Being Proud

How often are you proud of yourself?

How often are you proud of others?

What makes you proud?

How often is it a matter of character?

Being proud is important.

Of yourself and even more of others.

Pride is the antidote to envy.

Being honorable, trying your best, and getting good results,

all of these are worthy recipients of pride.

Expectation Management

How much do you expect?

How often are your expectations met?

How does this ratio make you feel?

How much do you expect of yourself?

How much do you expect of others?

Managing our expectations is critical.

If we expect too much, we are constantly disappointed.

If we expect too little, everyone around us underperforms.

If we expect nothing, life takes its own path.

Expect maximum effort.

Expert minimal results.

That is a winning compromise.

Shedding the Past

What from the past haunts you?

How do you deal with it?

How important is justice?

How important is letting go?

Often, things from the past haunt us.

Decisions, contracts, people, a version of yourself.

Shedding the past is liberating.

To develop, we need to shed regularly.

Like a snake that grows, it needs to shed their skin.

Feeling Welcome

How welcome do you feel?

How welcome are you?

What is the difference between them?

Why is there a difference?

Often, we do not feel welcome.

Sometimes what we feel is correct.

Sometimes it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Not feeling welcome can be insecurity.

It can be a disappointment of expectations.

Or we simply are not welcome.

Hello Stranger

How often do you approach a stranger?

What makes you do it?

When do you shy away from it?

How does it go when you say hello?

We meet strangers daily.

Each is an opportunity for a moment.

A moment of joy and connection.

Or a moment of rejection.

So, we ask ourselves if it is worth it.

Or if we would rather stay with ourselves.

What and How We Carry

What do you have to carry?

How much of it did you choose?

How do you carry your burdens?

How much control do you have over the how?

Often, we have to carry things not of our choosing.

However, we can decide how we wish to carry them.

It is your choice if you are sorry for yourself.

It is your choice whether you get angry at the world.

It is your choice how much attention you invest.

It is up to you to do your best.