Forgetfullness

How often do you forget things?

For what reason do you forget?

How do you handle these mishaps?

How can you mitigate them?

We all forget things at times.

The more we do, the higher the risk.

We can mitigate these with tools.

Lists and calendars are the foundation.

The more we do, the more they count.

Yet, we can still forget to use them.

What then? I do not know.

A bad feeling

How important is logic to you?

How do you respond to a bad feeling?

Which overrides the other — logic or feeling?

Why is this your go-to solution?

Our gut feeling is a crucial data point.

Our subconscious is trying to tell us something.

Rarely will we know what the problem is.

It serves to take at least a second look.

Some may say that intuition trumps logic.

What is the higher risk?

A wrong yes, or a wrong no?

Principles of partnership

What are your principles of partnership?

How do you pick the people to work with?

What traits do they need to have?

How do they need to behave?

Picking the right partners is a crucial skill.

It requires having criteria and principles.

Taking time to observe people.

Rate them against your principles.

Your principles are non-negotiable.

So take your time and pick wisely.

Cost vs Investment

How do you define a cost?

How do you define an investment?

What is the difference?

How balanced are costs vs inestments for you?

This is less straightforward than many think.

Many things that are seen as investments,

are in reality a cost.

Many things that are seen as costs,

can be an investment.

It depends on the goal of a purchase.

It depends on what you achieve with it.

And often it is a matter of perspective.

Sharing Wisdom

How often do you share your wisdom?

What do you expect in exchange?

How often do others share with you?

How often is it unconditional?

Sharing our wisdom is rewarding.

Professionally, we may be paid for it.

When sharing unconditionally,

the reward comes in different forms.

These can be even more rewarding.

There need not always be an exchange.

Problem Perspective

How often do you fight with others?

How could you frame the problem differently?

How can you work together for a solution?

Would you rather fight another or together?

We often see the other person as the problem.

Yet the problem is the problem.

We can solve this problem together.

You and I against the problem.

Fight the problem, not the person.

Grumpy ol' Grump

How often are you grumpy?

How often do you know why?

How do you deal with it?

How can you find the reason?

We are all grumpy at times.

Often, we are not aware of why.

The subconscious is sending a message.

But there will always be a good reason.

Ignoring your mood is a losing strategy.

Taking some time to explore the origin is crucial.

Everyone has an optimal way to do so.

Go find your preferred method.

Lost Connections

Whom have you lost connection with?

What were the reasons for it?

How well do you even know them?

What is stopping you from reaching out again?

Losing connection to people is part of life.

Some for good reason and others for no reason.

Often, we do not even know why.

We will assume all sorts of reasons.

And I assure you, they will be wrong.

The only way to know is to ask.

If not, you need to accept the status quo.

Consideration

How considerate are you of others?

How considerate are others of you?

How much common sense is required?

How does consideration differ across society?

Some people are more considerate than others.

Some are more selfish than others.

We have social norms on where to draw the line.

Yet, this is different in each county.

Often, we are angered because others are less considerate.

Yet we might also be ashamed because we are less considerate.

Who are you?

How well do you know people?

The people you work with?

The people you are friends with?

How well do you even know yourself?

We don’t even understand ourselves fully.

In accordance, we do not know those around us.

We will know parts of them.

We will know what they show us.

We do not get to look under their hood.

We do not get a full look into their lives.

For better and for worse, we cannot judge a book by its cover.

If you do, all you can do is make assumptions.

So be ready to be surprised regularly.

Experiences

Which experiences do you enjoy?

What is it that you enjoy about them?

How do things need to go?

How can you ensure more of them?

Everyone has different preferences.

Some enjoy quantity, others quality.

Some prefer serenity, others action.

Some prefer groups, others loneliness.

Know what makes your perfect experience.

Then go and create more of them.

Revisiting Conversations

How often do you revisit old conversations?

How far do you go back to do so?

What happens when you do so?

How do you react when someone else does this?

Everyone loses track of a conversation at times.

You do it, and so do others.

Picking up a conversation that died can be rewarding.

You will positively surprise the other party.

thus success is more likely.

The further back you go, the better.

What conversation can you revisit?

Who is it for?

Who is your audience?

Who is your market?

Who is giving you feedback?

How qualified are they?

We receive feedback for our work,

yet often from the wrong people.

They often are neither qualified,

nor are they your audience.

Remember who you are catering to.

Focus on your market.

And ignore the rest.

What you are building is not for them.

The Challenger

How do you respond to challenges?

Why do you respond this way?

How invested do you get?

What are usually the outcomes?

People will challenge you at times.

Some will do this respectfully,

Others will do this rudely.

Often, engaging them is not worth it.

Yet, not doing so can damage your image.

It is crucial to learn when it is and when it is not.

Being Ready

When are you ready for a project?

How often do you commit too early?

How often do you foolishly refrain?

How do your too-early projects go?

We are never truly ready.

When we feel ready, it is often too late.

We pass by many a chance due to this.

It is called insecurity.

Yet, hesitating can save you from stupidity.

It is a fine line that we walk.

Commit with confidence and deliver.

Committing with insecurity can end in failure.

Opportunity Timing

How often do you miss an opportunity?

How often did an opportunity taken not work out?

What are the reasons for either?

What are the similarities?

We come across opportunities constantly.

Many of which are not right for us.

Then there are those that fit,

yet they come at the wrong time.

Often we will take them up,

and due to the timing, we fail.

Being able to say no to those is a skill.

And it is a skill worth developing.

Silly Mistakes

When is your mistake rate the highest?

When do you make the silliest mistakes?

What is the environment like?

What is your personal condition like?

We all make very stupid mistakes at times.

And we wonder how we could be so dumb.

Yet, there is a recipe for stupid mistakes.

We are usually under high stress.

We are often exhausted already.

We are then usually distracted.

And there you go, any more questions?

Worse before Better

How well do things go at the start?

How easily do you pick up a new skill?

How much output can you deliver?

How bad does it get before it improves?

When we start something new,

things tend to go badly before it works.

If you make a change to your routine.

If you make a change to your team.

If you make a change to your plan.

Before all the parts click into place,

it takes time, painful time.

Feeling Time

How well do you notice time?

How fast does it go by when you are bored?

How fast does it go by when you have fun?

How can you leverage this for yourself?

The feeling of time is not constant.

It differs according to what you are doing.

In the moment, time passes quickly during fun.

Yet in the long run, fun times go by slowly.

In the moment, boring times pass slowly,

yet in the long run, they pass quickly.

If life is zooming by, you need a change.

If life is creeping, you are in the right spot.

Quiet Progress

How often is progress stalled?

How does that make you feel?

How often are you waiting on others?

How often does progress suddenly jump?

We all have periods of stalemate.

Nothing is happening for a while,

and we become increasingly frustrated.

Then suddenly progress accelerates.

In reality, things were quietly progressing.

People work on things, and it takes a while.

While you procrastinate, your brain is working.

Sometimes, all you need is a little patience.