Acting with Confidence

How confident do you act?

How directly do you communicate?

How much do you trust your instinct?

How much do you trust yourself?

Those who act in confidence perform better.

Confidence is a key ingredient in everything.

The ordinary confident will beat the brilliant unconfident.

Trust yourself when you make decisions,

and then perform the acts with confidence.

Results will come and show themselves.

Rhythm and Routines

What rhythm do you run on?

What are your routines?

How long have you had them for?

What is their value?

We all have our personal rhythm.

We all have our routines.

Sometimes our rhythm is outdated.

It might be ready for a change.

Our rhythm dictates our routines.

To unlock a different version of yourself,

change the rhythm you run on.

The Origin of Change

Where does change come from?

How often do you drive it?

How often do external factors drive it?

Which type of change do you prefer?

The origin of change can differ.

We can drive it, or external factors can.

Serendipity is a major driver of change.

Crisis is another major one.

Whatever the origin, it is up to you.

If you accept the change and what to make of it.

Get started already!

How readily do you get started?

How much do you need?

How much do you like to plan?

How often do you overthink?

Often, we overthink things.

Overthinking will lead to lethargy.

We believe we need more planning.

We believe we need more preparation.

Planning and preparation then never end.

It is time to start, one small step at a time.

Cooperation on whose terms?

How willingly do you cooperate?

How willingly do you compromise?

How willingly do you accept others’ terms?

Where do you draw the line and why?

Rarely can we work in a team on our terms.

We need to compromise most of the time.

Yet, don’t people please and accept their terms.

Cooperation is like a dance,

to move in tandem, we need to be in sync.

The Unsuspected Culprits

How well do you identify the culprits?

How often are they unsuspected?

How long does it take you to figure them out?

How readily do you jump at the usual suspect?

The usual suspect is not always at fault.

Sometimes, the culprit is unsuspected.

Take a moment before designating the culprit.

The culprit need not be a person.

The culprit need not do it on purpose.

The culprit is simply the origin of your trouble.

Oh The Details

How often do details matter?

How often are they the point of failure?

How often have hours of work been for naught?

How do you feel about details’ importance?

The devil is in the details.

Often, things will fail due to the finer details.

Often, many hours of work will be wasted.

Details are important, yet often we don’t bother.

Sometimes we don’t need to,

Yet sometimes they are crucial.

Occasional Megalomania

How often do you engage in megalomania?

What happens if you do?

How do you feel when you do?

How big do you think in general?

The occasional episode of megalomania is healthy.

Megalomania can help us to think bigger.

It helps us to be audacious and courageous.

Most of the time, we think too timidly.

We cannot see what is possible for us.

Occasional Megalomania is the solution.

Forgotten Malice

How often do you experience malice?

How often is it done on purpose?

How often is its source forgetfulness?

Can it really be malice if it is unintentional?

We are often misstreated unintentionally.

Often, people forget our preferences or needs.

Thus, there is no malice in the action,

Yet to us, it feels like it is intentional.

Intent cannot be seen from an action.

You will need to infer and guess.

The Self and Goals

How well do you know yourself?

How often do you achieve your goals?

How do you feel once you do?

How sure are you that they are the right goals?

Without knowing yourself well,

setting goals is a farce.

You will reach them, sure.

But are you moving in the right direction?

If not, reaching them will feel hollow.

Learn thyself before setting big goals.

Name Them

How well can you name your emotions?

How accurate are your feelings?

How quickly can you identify them?

How do you react to them?

Translating our emotions into feelings is hard.

For some more so than for others.

If you name your emotion, it becomes a feeling.

Yet, often those names elude us.

Without the name, they wreak havoc inside.

To set them free, they need that name.

Forgetfulness

How often do you forget things?

How important are they?

What impact does it have on you?

What can you do to mitigate it?

We all forget things from time to time.

Some of it is important, most of it banal.

Forgetfulness has consequences.

Systems, structure and support can help.

What do you need to remember?

What we strive for

What do you strive for?

What is your head telling you?

What is your intuition telling you?

How much internal conflict do you have?

Often our heart yearns for one thing,

yet our head tells us to go for another.

This will create inner tension.

With this state, you will fail,

fail till you can align heart and mind.

Use your mind to support your heart.

The Environment Effect

How does the environment affect you?

How does your behaviour change?

How does your mood change?

How does your fitness change?

The environment has an effect on us.

The right environment can lift us up.

The wrong environment can tear us down.

Sometimes we can change our environment.

Sometimes we need to find a new one.

Do not discount the environment effect.

The right moment

How often do things come at the right time?

How often does the right thing come at the wrong time?

How do you decide what to do?

How likely is the opportunity to repeat?

What is the “right moment?

Things come our way whether we want them or not.

The right things, especially.

It is up to us if we grasp them or not.

The right moment is a mental construct.

It does not exist; we make it exist.

FOMO and Losses

How often do you succumb to the fear of missing out (FOMO)?

How often do you fear losing something?

What is the driver behind FOMO for you?

Why are you worried about losses?

What can you do to flip the script?

Fear is a bad driver for decisions.

Yet, fear governs many of our decisions.

The more aware you are about this,

The better you make decisions.

Understanding what drives your fears is crucial.

Only then will you be able to work around it.

Time Alone

How much time do you spend alone?

How do you feel when you do?

How do you feel after you did?

How can you incorporate this more often?

Spending time alone is crucial.

It is the moments when you can reflect.

It is the moments when you can recharge.

Some might spend too much time alone.

How much we need is individual.

Find the balance that works for you.

A good old Test

What makes a good test?

How smooth should a test run?

How many variables should you test?

How many tests are enough?

A test is great to confront ideas with reality.

A test is great to learn how things work.

A test is great for making many mistakes,

and making them without consequences.

We should all do more testing and less worrying.

A test beats a thousand hours of thinking.

Personas

How many personas do you have?

What is your private persona like?

What is your professional persona like?

What is your public persona like?

We all have several personas.

Our personas change based on the environment.

Our personas change based on the task.

Our personas change based on the goal.

Some think this is unethical,

yet it simply is reality and human nature.

The more aware you are about it, the better.

Win-Win

Do you strive for win-win solutions?

How often do you succeed?

When it works, why?

When it fails, why?

How can you improve your odds?

Win-Win solutions are the best,

yet they are not always possible.

It is always worth striving for it,

yet people may use it against you.

Be sure to know when to walk away.

At times, a compromise is the best result possible.