Support Needed?

How much support do you have?

How much work is on your plate?

How much care work do you have?

How much can you outsource?

Many of us drown in tasks,

at home and at work.

Getting support is the answer.

Get an employee or a service provider.

Ask a friend, family or parents to help.

Buy better equipment to save time.

Support can come in many different shapes and sizes.

What is stopping you from getting the needed support?

Mortality

How aware are you of your mortality?

How often do you ponder on it?

How do you feel about it?

How does it make you react?

We can die any second on any day.

Yet, we rarely ponder on it.

Why should we? It is what it is.

Yet, when you do, it changes things.

It changes how you decide and act.

It changes what you spend your time with.

It changes who you spend your time with.

Remember to ponder upon your mortality now and then.

Affront Reaction

How do you react to an affront?

Do you take time to think?

Do you stay true to yourself?

What is the other party trying to gain?

Often, people will offend you to gain something.

The obvious reaction is usually what they aim for.

Staying calm in the face of an affront is paramount.

Take a moment to think before acting.

Do what is right for you.

Usually, ignoring the affront is a good start.

Compassion for Evil

Can you be compassionate toward evil?

Are you able to understand evil actions?

How often have you done something evil?

Who decides what is evil?

Hurt people hurt people.

Breaking this cycle is arduous.

Most don’t manage.

Neither are most of us perfect.

We all do bad things.

We all do good things.

The ratio is what matters.

Making Sense

What do you spend your time doing?

How purposeful is everything you do?

Does everything make sense for you to do?

What are the reasons you are doing things?

Not everything we do has to make sense.

Not everything we do needs to have a purpose.

Often, the most senseless tasks give us perspective.

The most useless endeavours spark our creativity.

Doing good for yourself

How much good do you do for yourself?

How do you know what the right thing is?

How good are you at picking them?

How often do you pick the wrong thing?

When trying to do good for ourselves,

we may pick the wrong thing,

and end up doing bad for ourselves.

All it needs, is one wrong analysis.

All it needs is one piece of information missing.

All it needs is one wrong advice.

In order to do good for yourself,

you will need to do bad for yourself many times over.

Super Connectors

How easily do you meet the right people?

How do you go about finding them?

How do you even know who is “right”?

Which channels can you use?

The answer is the super connector.

There is people that have a gift.

A gift to know, who needs to talk to whom.

A gift to not only know, but to introduce.

A super connector is worth thousand events.

A super connector is worth thousand of online connections.

Having a super connector as a friend is a treasure.

One Conversation

How many conversations do you try to have?

How many people are you trying to meet?

How well do you connect in each conversation?

What is your goal in each conversation?

Often, one single conversation is all you need.

Meeting one person that you connect with.

Meeting the right people and having the right conversations,

beats going for quantity and shallowness.

When did the last shallow conversation move the needle?

How often did a deep conversation help you?

On great events

How often do you attend events?

Which events were the good ones?

Why were these events good?

How can you discern the good from the bad?

Some events we attend are phenomenal.

Some events we attend are bland.

The events stand and fall with the attendees.

The organisers are the ones who pick the attendees.

If they are great people, so will the attendees be.

So select according to the organisers.

Tiredness vs Habits

How well can you uphold your habits?

How tiered can you be and carry on?

When do you permit yourself to lose discipline?

What do you prioritise in times of hardship?

We all have habits important to us.

We all have times of intense exhaustion.

We all hit a point where we cannot continue.

This is when we need to know what to prioritise.

Sometimes all that is left is to eat and sleep.

Try to adapt before hitting this point.

What is important?

What things make you angry?

Which topics stress you?

Which people make you uncomfortable?

Which behaviors do you detest?

Looking at how things make us feel,

is a great way to see what is important to us.

Once you know this, you know how to act.

You will know whom to work with.

You will know which situations to avoid.

Watch yourself every day and take note.

Treat people fairly

How fairly do you treat people?

How fairly treated do you feel?

Is there a connection, do you think?

When do you feel mistreated?

When do you mistreat others?

We all feel mistreated sometimes, if not often.

We all mistreat others sometimes.

It can be a failure of character.

It can be a failure of nerves.

It can be a failure of etiquette.

It can be a failure of culture.

Be forgiving with yourself,

and others if applicable.

To reply or not to reply

How many messages do you receive daily?

How many of these are unsolicited?

How do you react to them?

How would you like to react to them?

These days, we are getting overwhelmed with outreach.

Social platforms, LinkedIn, Messengers and Telephone.

We need to get our tasks done.

We have limited resources to answer unsolicited communication.

Often, all you can do is ignore it.

Ignore and hope for understanding and forgiveness.

Or you simply do not care.

Days of disaster

How well do your days go?

How frequent are days of disaster?

How much are they in your control?

How do you react to them?

We all have days of disaster.

Days when many things go wrong.

Days when we get up on the wrong foot.

Anything we touch turns to dust.

These days are best left in the past.

These days are not so bad, tomorrow.

Half-Done vs Conquering Mountains

How often are you stuck mid-task?

How often is this not your fault?

How often can you fix it?

How often must someone else fix it?

Not being able to finish things is frustrating.

If you cannot fix the problem, even more so.

You have no choice but to leave it half done,

and to wait, and wait, and wait, till it is fixed.

Some days are like this.

On other days, we conquer mountains.

Timing

How important is timing?

How good are you at timing?

When is timing crucial?

When is timing less important?

How can you make up for bad timing?

Timing is essential, always.

Sometimes it is even crucial.

Sometimes it is only an important aspect.

Some of us are great at timing,

Some of us are bad at timing.

However, the prepared and persistent can outlast timing.

Yet timing and chance go hand in hand.

Simple yet Difficult

Which simple tasks are difficult for you?

How do you feel when you fail at these?

Which complex tasks are you good at?

How do you feel when you excel at these?

We all have our specific struggles.

Sometimes, with seemingly easy things.

We all have our strengths.

Sometimes, they are exceedingly difficult.

After a day of failing at easy things.

Remember the times you excelled.

Saying Yes

Why do you say yes?

How often do you regret the yes?

Did you say yes to please?

Did you say yes out of shame?

Did you say yes out of pride?

Did you say yes out of fomo?

Or from the bottom of your heart?

All of us are compelled to say yes,

Often for the wrong reasons.

And we all regret it later.

Stop and think!

Trust vs control

When can you trust?

When do you need to control?

When do you need to check?

How do you know if to trust or control?

We have all trusted too soon at some point.

We have all been controlling at some point.

Sometimes we trust, when we should have checked.

Sometimes we double-check, where we should have trusted.

This is a non-binary game.

We will get it wrong regularly.

Just get it right more often.

Useless things

Do you own useless things?

How useless are they?

What could you use them for?

Why still have them if there is nothing?

We all own seemingly useless things.

Their intended use has no value to us.

But they tend to have other uses,

uses that are not immediately obvious.

An old park bench and some firewood,

can make a wonderful shelf.